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Some of you may never go in the chatroom…just might not be your cup of tea. thats ok, there are plenty of other ways to meet and make friends here. I really used to enjoy going in the chatroom(most everynight) i cannot say that now. Recently there seems to be a clique in the room(mostly in the evening) that want to make it uncomfortable for some to enjoy the room. This is sad and i don’t believe they realize they are doing harm to new chatters that want to enter the room and feel welcome. I have been a member here for a few years and i don’t even feel welcome there.I don’t need to name names, you know who you are……please leave your baggage at the door so we can laugh and enjoy each other’s company again…Thankyou.
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oh so sorry ghostie, i know what you are talking about however on the most part i find the chat room very friendly with newbies being included, i find most people do a good job in chatting to everyone, some very kind people here who are interested in all. And yes i would love chat to be how it was when we all laughed and had a good time. I hope the people concerned do think outside themselves and put themselves in others shoes and realize chat is for friendship, a place to come and unwind not to grandstand xxx
Ghost, let’s resolve that in 2013, we will bring the chat room back to the old standards and make it fun again.
Ariz when i first joined S.C.i loved visiting the chat room,we had great fun,and you made me feel so welcome,thank you for that,….im sure adim have a plan of action to bring it back the way it used to be,iff i see you in there flower will be straight in,Happy New Year Ariz,your a great guy,xxxxxxx
omg AG, very powerful and so very true
i did try to leave my baggage at the door, but when i went to check it in they said i was over the limit so would have to pay a fortune (only had small change on me) at the time so i brought it home again
You are one amazing person and can tell you honestly that you enrich the room whenever you are in it (i hope that didnt sound patrionising) because i really mean it
i can only hope and pray that 2013 will bring you all good things, especially laughter
love you heaps, jo xxx
i agree with your post mate and that is why i no longer go in there. there will be a few more places on here i wont be going in if things continue.
Great Blog Zona!!! I agree with Merry when she states, Let’s get the chat room back to the old standard of chat, with tons of laughter, and fun!!! Cheers to you Zona 🙂 ONY
Sadly I agree with everything you said Arizona. I do miss going into chat, but there was no one there I knew anymore.
I agree the chat room needs a paradigm for of all us to enjoy. Sometimes the clique in the room makes it hard for one to contribute to the chat or even bring in a new chat theme. HAPPY 2013
Myself being one of the more recent members of this wonderful site, i wasn’t here, unfortunately, when all these ‘wonderful, happy days’ were with you, but can i just add that i’ve found nothing BUT warm welcomes and open arms in the chatroom. Like i say Ghost, i’m a fairly new member, but who are the members in this ‘clique’ that you speak of ?. Is it evenings (UK time), or evenings (USA time). I do think that if this is made clear, the guilty party may have some idea, thus perhaps try to mend their ways and put things back to rights ?.
think your living in cloud cuckoo land postie, pardon me for saying so but there is a clique of old timers who have no interest in anything but themselves and as for namin g people your asking for AZ to either get the cold shoulder treatment by these people or end up being banned as they gang up on him. personally i use the chat rooms as little as possible now because of these people
I dont believe you live in cuckoo land postie,lol,but i do agree with everything else cef has said.
Only speaking as i find Cef, nothing more, and if anybody has no love for these people, why should it bother anybody if they get the cold shoulder or not. Life’s to short mate, just get on with it.
We arent supposed to get the cold shoulder postie,this is a friendship site,isnt it?,xx
Another thought,lol,we have quite a few rooms,so why not use them as a chat room as well,thats iff we are aloud to,chat room 1,2,and 3,smack my hand iff im out of place saying this faye,lol,haha,or Admin even,haha
i am getting on with it postie thats why i dont need to spend so much time in a chat room lolol
I may be wrong, but it seems to me that the chat room is the first place many newcomers go when they first visit the site. It’s a good way to meet more of the members at once, as well as get a feel for the kind of site this is. Logically, if the new folks aren’t made to feel welcome, and/or not included in the various discussions, they may choose to go elsewhere, and not bother looking further at what else Chatters has to offer. As far as those long time members who used to love visiting the chat room and have since stopped participating, the testimonies shared in this thread is proof enough that the atmosphere in the chat room has changed, and not for the better. Now the question is, how do we make it better.
I totally agree with you Postman, as there is no problem with the UK evening chat room !! So Ghost must be refering to the USA evening chat room !! I have noticed that as I look in about midnight UK time that, what was a happy, thriving, jovial room only a couples of hours before is now quite often fairly empty ??
I think Flowersuns idea of several chatrooms is a brilliant one, as it would account for what are obvious differences in ‘cultural attitude’ displayed recently in both chat room and on blogs, that have been the basis for the recent disquiet maybe ???
It seems that most of you assume that the only times zones represented here are UK and USA. There are other parts of the world that are heavily represented in the chat room so don’t assume it has to be UK or USA.
I go into chat everyday usually about 11.30am oz time to see friends, meet our new members and do a job. If you have noticed there is a window for a short time between clicking on join chat and your name appearing in chat. During that time you can see the last few posts and the transcripts. Yesterday I saw two not very nice posts from someone who should know better and a newbie.and then the about face lol. That is one thing that would put people off. Another is some newbies are shy and after being greeted prefer to watch chat for a little while to see what is being discussed and some times that is taken the wrong way. Of course longstanding members love to see their friends and have a chat and I have seen some go to a private room to catch up so not to disrupt others chat. I have also noticed that most also include newbies and help with their questions also respecting their right to be silent for a little while until they get the hang of it and just ask if they are doing ok now and then. Some say they get messages from newbies complaining about the chat room, I get messages from newbies saying how much they enjoyed chat. I guess the buck stops with us all and think if Rob’s conditions of entry to chat were respected at all times not just when monitors and admins are in the room, things might improve over all time zones.
I wrote this blog only because others have expressed to me that during the evening time zones here in the USA that the chat room is just not fun anymore. For lots of reasons….some feel they are not welcome…that the attitude in the room is just to tense. Most now just use private chat. I have been in the chatroom without monitors and find that it is more relaxed. (my opinion) not saying that that is a problem, just seems to be with certain monitors. I have enjoyed the chatroom in the morning much more , it seems much more relaxed. I just felt someone had to speak up about this and hope it will change. I have seen so many people leave and no longer come into chatroom and they all tell me the same thing, that the room is not fun anymore, some have even left senior chatters altogether. Anyone got any ideas? Or am i just seeing it wrong? By the way Happy New Year to all!
Ghost, it is up to us, as members to try to correct the situation. I think if we all try to be a bit more courteous and welcoming to newbies, the chat room will turn itself around. You are an important asset to Senior Chatters and I for one appreciate your presence.
I appreciate ghostie too and his funny pics, wasn’t it just a few days go we were all laughing at them? Happy New year to you too ghostie, lets make it a good one xxx
How infantile to think that “seniors chatters” should be a happily ever after fairy tale site. For goodness sake! There are 2500 of us here ,all over 50 and from all walks of life , different nationalities and cultural differences .
There are CARERS tending loved ones suffering serious illnesses , watching them waste away in front of their own eyes ! There are MOURNERS grieving the loss of spouses / children / parents / friends / pets . Etc .
There are people suffering physical and mental ILLNESSES ,DEPRESSION ,LONELINESS , ETC.
SO if someone in the chat room says something that is not ok , why take it personally ? Why judge or try to change others to our own liking ? Let’s take a good look at ourselves …
Some of us have been here for a long time , is it possible that we may be feeling a bit territorial and believe that we have right of ownership of the site?
I see seniors chatters as an “open house” or “drop in center ” or even a social club if you prefer . I don’t have to like everybody here and not everybody has to like me ! THE HOUSE IS OPEN TO ALL MEMBERS , every body has the right to be here .whether we like it or not .
Love this nmod.. if more people just had the same attitude we wouldn’t even be having this discussion.. If you don’t like something, move along and find something u do like.. There’s something here for everyone really, you’re never going to get everyone to conform to what you want and everyone brings something unique.. it’s just life..
Bloody well said Nm, mate …. ! L et al xxx
Well said Nmod
Right ON Nmod…… 100% !!!!!
I agree with you Nmod , well said 🙂
thank you so much nmod you said what i was trying to say xxx
and i am going to say this, when i became a monitor it was said to me you stop being a monitor, you can come back to the fold. I declined, monitors as well as admin do a great job here, like us or not we help keep the site safe for all. since then it has been all out war by a few to get me to change my mind, i will not, you got it? some are not who they seem and although being caught out in lies in deceit are still here for some reason. So stop doing your agenda in blogs and spoiling things for others, chat is good, many lovely people here and members do a great job in helping others feel better, this is a friendship site not a complaint desk get real. Sorry i broke my new years resolution, another hissie fit lol
Skip ,you crack me up your so funny,xxxxxx,luv ya,xxxxxx
lol love you too flower xxx
Nearly said something lol but keeping my mouth shut for a change hahahaha
Same here gran,but i have already spoken,lol,but more has been added since i last checked in,lol,so like you im keeping my mouth shut also,haahhaha,xxxxx
hahhaha gran
Well did a ruffle some feathers here…by the way nmod i really don’t know you and have never seen you in the chat room…you have really no business referring to me as infantile , as to my opinion. One should think at least a minute or two before they make such statements to someone they don’t know. However that is your opinion and i respect that, I just don’t agree with you . Yes i am aware that all different types of people belong to senior chatters, i go into the chat room for light conversation and chat with friends i’ve made and to meet new people. That is all…no drama! And i sure don’t go in the chatroom to listen to a monitor bully a member because they don’t agree with them, just because they can use their power they have to do so. I have a right to my opinion just as you do and while stating my opinion i believe i was making my point as a gentlemen…i only hope your next blog will be as a lady with a little respect to others opinions.
You are absolutely right here , I was not referring to you as infantile , I’m sorry that you took that as an attack on my part , I was referring to the general idea that everything has to be fun all the time ! There are a lot of people suffering and there are always going to be people who feel uncomfortable or make others feel uncomfortable ( as I just managed to do here)
I was actually referring to the site in general and not any person in particular .
I’m sorry if I’ve offended you , it was not my intention !
ok cant help myself lol First of all, yes ghosty you are a gentleman xx A lot of people have opinions on the chat room that never come in there ghosty, or come in once or twice and dont give it a go. But like you said it is not for everyone. Especially when its busy and if you are not a fast typer. I have fun in the chat room weather a monitor is in the room or not. No monitor has ever spoilt the chat for me. They are there to protect us from scammers etc. Maybe I just talk to much and miss a lot.
Just one mre word,lol,Ariz i agree with goose1,you are a true GENTLEMAN!!!!!!,xxxxxxxx
he is not!!!!
he is a hoodwinked man
well ghostie i have never seen a monitor bully another member because of their so called “power” and i very much resent you saying that. I have seen some members trying to bully a monitor lol many times and actually it was you who said to me stop being monitor and you can come back to the fold , how is that for bullying or attempted bullying and i see you with the person crying bully all the time lol, wonder what that relationship is. Yes you did ruffle some feathers because of the lack of truth on your part and injustice is one thing i will always stand up for.
Sorry my friend,but i have seen a monitor bully a member.xxx
and it wasnt me,…..i go into chat very seldom now,and like faye said iff you dont like it stay out,so thats what i do,i have joined a lot of groups,and enjoy them very much,……….i have been a member for 8 months,..
well it wasnt bloody me lol xxx
No it wasnt you skip,your my dear friend!!,not in your nature,xxxxx…..i wont be commenting again about the chat room,because to be quite honest,life is to short to nit pick,(which i have done),…..i see people everyday who are bed ridden,and dieing,this blog has made me take a good look at my self,i want to spend the rest of my days in PEACE and Harmony,not bloody nit picking,flower just swore,omg,ahhaahha,take care everyone and GOD BLESS!!!you all,xxxxxx
haha!! Flower…..I knew there was some cuss word you just couldnt resist
lol flower bloody is contagious xxx
and i have been done good and proper by a monitor not bullied just banned without right of reply. I got this far reading so much on this subject kept trying not to be drawn in but reading things hear and hearing so many saying the self same as i was chastised for a month ago.
nmod said a lot of what my feelings are on the subject and did so in a way beyond my education level.
this one subject has shown me that there are others of the same mind and hope now the room will start to work forward to all being on an equal plane………. I live and hope
Did i say i was keeping my mouth shut?what happened?,haaahahaaha
Ok I have borrowed this “we are all guests here of Rob and the chat room is his house and we should all have respect for those who use and enter that room just as we would expect in our own homes”
well said skippy.xx
Gosh darnit y’all had to get me going here lol. Well I agree with nmod on this one. If we all act like what we want to see maybe this subject would be over. I mean really, I did go in chat a few times but I found my niche other places and have a great time. As millie said, you not going to get everyone to conform. There are 2,500 members here now. I remember when there were only 200.
We all have our own interests and likes. ghostie I see your point but all in all the chatroom is cool.
If I go in and dont like the topic I just move on to blogs or groups. The nice thing here is Rob has allowed and created virtually something for everyone. My guess if we all do our little part to be what we expect everyone else to be it can’t be anything but fun. There are some here who just refuse to have fun as I have seen the past few days but guess what, I’m still here lol. Just my 2cents Just smile for heaven sake..who knows they may give it back. Anyone remember the Rodney King thing long time ago??…. :)”ca ca ca can’t we all just get along?” 🙂 LOL “J”
Well..I used to go into chat almost every night UK time….and I will tell you why I don’t anymore..
I had 2 nasty experiences with newbies……who have since been banned..a moniter was in there and I called out for ‘help’ even writing in capital letters and whispering to that person….it was ignored….as they ‘didn’t’ see me asking for help…by the by…
I then went into chat the next day and was explaining to other chatters about my experience and trying to make others aware of this ‘new’ person…ho hum I was told not to mention my experience or I would face a ban….I did report the experience as I was told to do….but those people remained in chat for a least a month….
I carried on and pressed the ignore button when those xnewbies were there….I also witnessed a horrendous experience with a moniter and a newbie but the newbie remained on site and is still on here, the newbie was distraught…..but happy to say stayed..not sure if they go into chat anymore…
Sometimes and it’s jmo, I see the chat room as a way for some NOT all setting the pecking order like a popularity contest…and I will say again SOME NOT ALL…..
And I will also say again and again…the people who sometimes make others feel uncomfortable never appear to comment on any blogs written about the chat room…so imo they are probably not even aware of their behavior to others….
~ if you see something in chat which you think is a form of bullying to another then copy paste the convo report and then press the ignore button..simples..
On the other hand I find the site to offer an awful lot other than ‘just’ the chat..as said before..we are all different and all individuals….and no 2 people are the same…..
~ also I do not stay away because ‘that’ person intimidates me, I stay away because quite honestly, I am busy, I read a lot of the blogs and groups here and ….work etc….
~ on a last note, when I would be chatting to someone the person concerned was more than willing to take over a conversation from me when I was ‘just’ chatting to another man, and they would continue chatting about ‘stuff’ of which I was totally excluded as no doubt they had a more knowing of each other…that’s ok you go ahead now, after all I was really just making general chit chat, …..as I do realize this is a friendship site 🙂
Now that was an ‘ouch’ comment to the post!!!!!…
Peace and friendship to all
xxx
well i have just read all this talk about the site and all i can say is for gods sake people grow up its not the end of the world yes we all like to have a go at someone be it in a joke or not but at the end of the day its only a chat site so get a life and move on life is to short for all this crap
I don’t get it. If you don’t enjoy chatting in the chatroom DON’T GO THERE. I was once a resident of the chatroom…yes basically lived there in the early days. But as the site grew the chatroom changed, and it keeps changing. We either keep up with those changes, keep going into chat, and enjoy it …..or, upon not being able to cope with the ever changing persona of the chatroom, don’t go there. I have chosen the latter to a degree. I still go in but not as often preferring to also use other parts of the site which I seldom did before.
Yes, it does change a little when a Monitor or an Admin goes in but that is the Chatters problem not the Monitor or Admin causing that. After all we are also ordinary chatters as well. As someone pointed out we’re there to keep it safe and clean. The Chatters are the first ones to complain if they get a nasty in there and no Monitors or Admins about…….it happened recently. Just remember the Monitors and Admins are people to and we all like a little fun up there as well. At times we do miss things that are being said just as anyone else does….we arent super human who can read faster than a flying bullet. We also make errors in judgement sometimes and maybe allow a chatter to stay who is interferring with the enjoyment of other chatters just as we also remove some that everyone may not agree with. It is the call of the Monitor or Admin to do this and maybe we have a little more information than you do on the person either left in or removed.
Rob hasnt asked for much when he asked for a simple, clean, friendly chatroom where common sense prevails and we can all have fun and support each other through good times and bad.
There are some fairly special friendships formed in the chatroom but I wouldn’t call them cliques…..extremely close friends maybe. I can understand why a newby would feel a little left out sometimes but ,to have a conversation with someone, you must say something yourself. After the initial Hello’s and Hi’s many of the newbys sit back and watch especially if they are new to chatrooms. Those who have used chatrooms before are more up front and tend to get right into the middle of it all. There is nothing anyone can do if a person prefers to sat back and watch….maybe next time they will join in. I myself, have found that those who never return are either people who are experimenting to see if they like chatting ( green on chat rooms), are put off by it being a pay site or were expecting a lot more than this site was set up for as in risque chatting. Their loss not ours if what is offered here is not to their liking…..:-)
i think your last sentence sums it up completely faye. THEIR LOSS NOT OURS is typical of someone who thinks everyone should fit into their way of thinking and if not they should get lost
do you ever wonder why some monitors and admin spend hours a day here in spite of their “real” life? Could it be that we love senior chatters, love lots of peeps here and want to help keep the site safe and clean. After work would you spend seven hours a day/night on a volunteer basis doing something you did not love? Think about it.
Oh sorry skip I missed this one I so appreciate the monitors….they check out people for us….for the sake of the room….and yes its all voluntary….but….if people have a problem with others in the room its not up to the monitors to sort it….only if there is abuse….thanks skip and all the monitors xxxx M
Morning all, may i say, as the old adage goes, ‘You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people, all of the time’. Start of the New Year, now before we all start whackin’ each other with our handbags, let’s all kiss and make up,(women only now), good strong handshake by the fella’s, and get on with life, hahaaa. xx
I don’t think it is fair to say that Arizonaghost is NOT a gentleman because he is friends with someone you many not like. I don’t think anyone has ever accused him of being anything but a complete gentleman. Totally unfair.
bullshit merry i am talking about a person that i know you are friends with who did a deceitful thing on site, i have proof just private message me i will give you facts and so you know today i listened to my husband recounting for the first time how things were for him this time last year when he nearly did not make it, what do you think is more important to me?
this crap or my real life
I have known ari on this site for a long while and agree with merry and found he has always been a gentleman to everyone, a decent chatter at all times. he has the right to an opinion like anyone else. so lets not bring down good people on here.
Wow! I’m just shocked and saddened by all the viciousness that I’ve read above. The language, personal attacks and vitriol, lead me to believe this is the reason why the chatroom is empty. This is bullying at it’s best!
Yes..I agree lo
Oh dear……I seem to miss all this…..I personally haven’t found the chat room unpleasant lately…in fact i love it…..and its true if you dont like the chat…..dont go in. There is only one person i would avoid and he ignores me anyway …hahaha…so grow up…..and enjoy people and life. We all have choices…i choose to be happy and bring some joy to the room….XXXXXXX M
IMHO: I find all of this extemely disturbing.
I joined this site almost 4 years ago to make friends, to curb the loneliness in my life, to connect with real friends online who are REAL people.
I can honestly say I am happy to be here, for the friends and relationships I have formed with others.
I have seen much good done here, and I have seen bad as well.
What disturbs me most I think is that we ALL care for one another, just some more then others.
Like a real life situation, you are going to find others you butt heads with. Some you are going to relate famously to.
Its a matter of choices. I personally stay neutral most of the time, but after reading all these comments, I have to say this.
Its a chat site, there will be gossip, backstabbing, arguing, its how its handled that counts.
I listen to all sides and make my own judgements, but I DONT go public with them in order to slander anyone, no matter who I am agreeing with. If we all did that, the site would be a pleasant one for sure.
I am NOT saying anyone is being slandered here, dont misunderstand, what I am saying is that if you have issues with someone KEEP THEM PRIVATE!!! There is no need to air grievances publically. Have meets in private with said parties and work on them.
Life is too damn short …….
Within all of the discussions made, were there any resolutions made? I saw a few. I don’t go into chat often, not because someone was rude. My mind can’t handle so many conversations going on at one time. So I have the choice to go somewhere else. Issue resolved. Rob was nice in making the additional chats rooms. A few of my friends liked to play games and it wasn’t working out in chat, so the solution was found and we are all happy. What if we focus on resolutions that will work for us all…a win-win? Maybe Rob will make another general chat and then people can choose between the two. We can’t all be alike, can’t all think the same way. I like the saying…you are either a part of the problem or a part of the solution. Everyone who has made comments are clever people, I look forward to hearing possible solutions. Together we can make it a better place for us all. I am starting off this new year in a positive mood. Love you guys and will try Chat ever so often.
Only TWO statements to make and hope this beastly childish behaviour can END ….
1. “IF ye have a problem wiv someone TELL THEM, personally … and not in a ‘Forum Arena’ …. Need attn?? … fone the Samaritans!”
2. “Senior Chatters is like ANY ‘club’ … ye get out wat ye put IN”
I totally agree Linda, it is indeed what you put in that allows you to get something out of it!
Very well said.
I see it this way, we have two choices, make amends, start fresh, forget the past, move on, make new friends, cherish the old ones, and for gosh sakes BE HAPPY.
The other choice would be to let things continue to fester, build up, continue to be angry and not get along, and to in essence make it miserable for those of us who come here to make friends.
I do agree with Linda’s statement as to finding a resolution to all of this.
In reality will any of this really matter in say 5, 10, or 15 years?
A person needs to choose their battles and I for one dont feel like it really matters at the end of the day if I dont get on with everyone. LOL.
The chat is a great place to show that you care, that you are concerned for others, that you like to meet on a daily basis and to form new friendships.
I like what faye said as well,,,,,
,” We either keep up with those changes, keep going into chat, and enjoy it …..or, upon not being able to cope with the ever changing persona of the chatroom, don’t go there”
I find the monitors and admin all fair and honorable and they indeed have a tough job to do and I respect and honor their decisions, whether I agree with them or not. If I question an action, I do it in private, although that rarely occurs.
Its a matter of priorities here, if you dont get along with someone , just move ahead. Dont let it eat away at you, because it can ruin the experience for you and everyone else involved.
I hope this is a wonderful New Year for you all, as I intend for it to be one of the best for me! xxxxx
I agree with you Laura in that life is too short for such nonsense. I will give a clue to one thing here.
Some of the ones having issues with the chatroom also have issue with the politics group. The past week I have posted articles relating to American government and received some really informed replies. However when a particular item referred to how poorly Obama was doing in so called leadership I got a few interesting private replies. Most of the language cannot be posted here. I said that to say this, Not all but some of the same cowards who sent me private also are the ones with the chatroom issues. They are not happy unless they are stirring shyt in some form. I have agreed with Laura on not exposing these types but to be honest, the next one who vents their hate in private and reverts to name calling I will expose them. The same ones who can’t debate a political also cannot get along in the chatroom. I did not say “everyone” so please don’t misunderstand. We are suppose to be adults here. I disagree with things on the site too but I make it a habit to ignore it if it does not affect me personally. If you don’t like the main chatroom there are other options such as pvt chat. As those who know me I get along with most anyone but some are cramping that behavior when you swear and outright make personal attacks. You know who you are. That’s my vent on the matter..now back to regular programming lol
Anyone wanting a friendly laugh should come into the chat room between 6pm and 12pm UK time.
We dont have monitors who misuse their powers just because they dont like someone. We dont have monitors that ‘call’ someone just because they ‘see’ them chatting with someone who they dont like !! Our monitors join in the fun and conversations because they are there to enjoy them selves and not to ruin everyones elses fun by flexing their own muscles.
We welcome newbies openly and are only too willing to help them and introduce them and include them in chat (of so much more use than the ’empty welcomes’ seen elsewhere !!)
Finally, if needed, anyone stepping out of line, is not chastised openly and in public but dealt with discreetly in private, as should be the case !!
this is the best fun i,ve had for ages lolololololl
I think it is really sad that a member here cannot express an opinion without being attacked. Since you called me out by name skippy….i don’t recall in my blog where i mentioned your name or anyone’s name for that matter. I was only writing about some concerns about the chatroom from members that i have asked as to why they no longer come in the chatroom…so sorry if you read more into it than is there. Maybe you should look in the mirror if you are that insecure..
may I put in my two pennyworth, I have absolute fond regard for all admins and moniters,where would we be without them, skippy is love personified, she puts the most caring pieces and pics for everone to enjoy, I have made many friends in chat love them all, one may have gone over the fence with rude comments in front of other chatters, but that is the exception not the rule, each time a newbie comes into chat I say ( welcome) please join in if you wish, or add whatever you choose to the conversation and try ernestly to be a positive chatter and an example to most by laughing and singing on music nights, I go into welcome to newbies regularly on groups to especially welcome newer members and invite them into chat. some do, some dont that is their personel choice, some say they like to look arround for awhile and that is fine also, i tend to look on the positives not on the negatives, the way I look at it everyone has a right to be who they are not for what are others expectations, not everyone can be loved, but I am trying too love everyone, even those who dissapoint me, it makes me a better person, one more thing and i,ll have said what I needed to say, the best thing I ever did was join my chatter family, I love the chat room and everyone in it, yes even the one person I avoid because they honestly dont realise how they are hurting others with a rude comment here and there, its so nice to get along with all, and I am going to keep doing that, because I love my chatters.and the chat room and everyone in it , everyone else is entitled to an opinion as well but hope so much that those who may be a little disscontented have another look come in again and join in and you may get a lovely surprise, I have nothing to complain about, and yes a big cheer for moniters and admins. a big thanks to rob for making this the best chat site possible.xxxxxxxxx.
I have to be honest, some of the commentary to AG’s post I find disgusting, and dishearting. If you dont like the Chat Room than simply dont go? There are no problems in the UK, come to “our” chat for fun. ArizonaGhost is anything but a complete and total gentleman? I believe Senior Chatters began as a chat site – why, WHY would anyone think it okay to say if you dont like chat dont go. I do understand our site has been expanded and all people will not like all things. Does that mean its okay and excusable when a member brings concerns forward about our Chat Room? I thought SC prided itself on the diversity of its members…that is inconsistent with a comment of inviting people to the time where you will find prodominantly one “group” of people. How rude! I believe I would be considered to be a long time or “older” member of SC, I have NEVER witnessed AG to be anything but a gentleman – in fact, he goes far above it – he is a kind, considerate, understanding, supportive, funny, compassionate man. I, like AG, have had several people tell me they no longer enjoy going to the Chat Room for various reasons. I readily admit I am one of those people. When I joined SC, chat was fun and exciting! There was a sense of discovery and celebration of the difference of cultures, traditions, and people. Coupled with learning about each other, inevitably the sillines and goofing off would start and before you knew it everybody was on the cruise ship with people throwing each other off, tipping over lifeboats, etc. We laughed and laughed until we cried. Speaking of crying, it wasnt all jocularity, there were serious times when someone needed support, thus sad tears were cried. And there were times of talking and offering support and suggestions when asked for by chatters; and most importantly, sometimes there was simply the acknowledgement of how someone was feeling. There could be one or twelve conversations going all at one time. And if you couldnt keep up or got lost, chatters laughed about it, or helped to sort out the confusion. Newbies were welcomed and encouraged to join in. People forged friendships and acquaintances. I am an oldie, with a select group of very special friends, one of whom is AG, whom I affectionately call Casper or Ghosty, and he calls me Trouble. If ever someone is confused about who those chatters are, we quickly identify ourselves accordingly. AG and I love to banter about football and baseball. Often, chatters have thought we were seriously arguing, and we have had to explain ourselves, and then the others join in our bantering. I am not lover of Corvette’s, like AG and Laura are; but I will fight for their right to hold a conversation in chat about their passion for them…although I need to find the Mustang lovers like myself! I will not apologize for my deep rooted friendships, its almost impossible to imagine being on SC for years and not make these friendships. And I dont give a dang, if anybody or everybody knows about them. I am well aware that many other chatters have friends like this. I dont feel excluded in any way. I would be proud to introduce anyone to my SC friends. I cherish them. I dont think the solution is simply to say that everybody should be more “nice-nice” and play well with others; I believe one either embraces the Chat Room realizing will be delighted sometimes, offended on ocassion, laugh until your ribs hurt, and supported/loved unbelievably. I know the rhyme and reason of Monitors and Admins. I have, I am sad and disappointed to say, seen where one or the other should have stepped in and did not, stepped in where totally inappropriate, and corrected a chatter about their behavior only to have seen that very monitor doing close to the exact same thing a few hours later. My suggestion is two-fold…we are all adults, realize when in chat you may indeed not like something or become offended, dont be so thin skinned that you cannot simply choose to let it roll off your shoulders – people offend one another all the time; or you could choose to leave chat for a while, I have; or you could say something to the person – either in private or in the room. I think it is critically important that chatters have the opportunity to discuss openly in the Chat Room when someone is offended. Are we not adults, and should we not be able to discuss and resolve such instances? Wouldnt it be the monitors role to facilitate such a discussion and find a resolution; and if the discussion becomes inappropriate then take action accordingly. We are not in kindergarten. I believe this type of communication is KEY to making chat fun again. While there are more rooms available now, I think we must be careful about thinking it to be acceptable to tell someone to go to another room. How can anyone decide which of the five or six conversations in the Chat Room should be designated to go to another room? I think that should be a decision the people discussing the same thing come to by themselves. Lastly, if a chatter cannot bring a concern forward, then we have lost the battle and war on having a great Chat Room. Yes we are a group of 2500, we are different, we wont always agree, not everyone will like the exact same things, no we will not be friends with everyone, yes there will be people we oculd live without, etc, etc, etc,; but there is no hope for us if we dont all agree that everyone should feel welcome to bring issues forward, and our attitudes should all be to support a chatters right to do so. If you have come to SC to meet people and make friends, then we need to do our best to make all chatters welcome.
helen, you have so missed the point here ?? all I’ll say is that its not the chatters who are not getting on !! My point about our UK evening chat room was only an illustration that you need to stand together and tell the person to butt out !! Its your room thats being spoiled !!
Thankyou Helen well said…ummm-whaaa
Can we assume that everyone has had their say on this subject and are now ready to move on, or are we going for a place in the Guiness Book of World Records? 🙂
Oh dear looks like we have a few unhappy campers.
As a rule I don’t get in to things like this. BUT I like a few of you was in the chat room quite a lot in 2011 and a bit in the early months of 2012. Trouble is the friendship and bannter for some reason dried up.
I think all im trying to say is lets get along before this turns in to another site that nobody want’s to come to. Oh yeah Happy new year you guys xxxx
Seventy-seven posts and counting; Anyone want to go for seventy-eight? Oop’s, that’s me! LOL
Um… Can I say something? ….I like old people and want world peace! (fluttering my eyes – flutter flutter) Man, people, don’t take yourselves so damn seriously!
Okay I’ll go for 79 – WOW I am gobsmacked reading all of this. WOW, WOW, WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bananas lol I got nothing to add , I just wanted to be number 80 lol
Well all i can say is …… that all i have ever found in chat is fun and witty good humour, admittedly i am fairly new and it took me a while to click on …as it were, i feel that i am now getting to know peoples personality, yes there is the odd one who maybe is a little maudlin, but hey, what does it cost to reach out the hand of friendship, i for one don’t even know who the monitors are, so theres no chance of me changing my line of chat when they are in the room. lol
Oh, we’re this close, let’s go for 100 posts, what do you say? Who’s next? LOL
I wanted to be the 100th…. but I didn’t know if there was a prize. So I don’t feel bad, I just posted a blog and I would like everyone who posted in here to go post on it. Just to make me feel good. To the 100th person to post on my blog I will give you a gift certificate. Not saying what the certificate is for, you just have to trust me.
Love you all.
How do you solve a problem like Maria?……….(From the Sound of Music, by the way) If your name is Maria, please don’t take it to heart! lol
well i’m going to add my 2cents worth..there have been times when i had a personal problem (a problem on the home front and not chat) and was just given the brush off….and i do find that during certain hours they is a clique in chat that makes if hard for people to get a word in…i’m not naming names so don’t ask…but feel free to send me private messages if any of you have a problem with me….and Happy New Year !!!!
I know I talk a lot in chat but I always answer anyone that speaks to me xxx
Wow I’v read all these post’s now I know why I never use chat rooms… if I won’t to chat to a group of people at the same time I just pop to the pub 🙂
Krank… you have the solution! How do we serve drinks in the chat? I would also request that snacks we provided. Love a nice warm pub on a cold day. I will buy the first round. (am I 100th yet?)
I think we are almost to 100, Linda…5 more to go…Will we make it, for an all time record???
If you do come into chat, we do have many chatters who take on the role of bartenders..we even have live entertainment…almost as good as a visit to the local pub!! Cheers!!
Gee i didn’t really mean to start all this…so i’ll have the last word i think……ty you all for your comments, i think the chat room will survive….happy new year you all!!!!! what number is this?
Zona have you lost count ?????