End the Cycle
I have been reading all your blogs, comments and updates. I am disturbed by all the stories you have told of abuse at the hands of caregivers. I was a caregiver and did everything in my power to keep my people happy, comfortable and safe. I was not an angel. That was my job; that was what I was paid to do. A job I was proud of. Each thank you by a patient,or family member, meant more to me than you can imagine.
So it makes my blood boil when I read your stories of abuse! NO patient deserves to be victimized in any manner. NO caregiver has the right to neglect or abuse any patient. NO complain should ever be ignored. It does not matter whether it is in a hospital, nursing home, or in the patient’s home. IT DOES NOT MATTER!!!
So what can you do? How can you prove your case against the words of aides, nurses, doctors, administrators, politicians and even the police? First, get a detailed statement from the patient if at all possible. Use a tape recorder if the patient is capable of speech. Or make a detailed written report. Carol, your blog, “Be Afraid…” is a fantastic example.
Next, present your complaint (always use a copy of your statements) to the proper person. Begin at the bottom of the ladder, and work your way up. Rung by rung. Don’t skip any rungs. Hear out their denials, excuses, alibis, or noncommitable bs. Add these statements to your original statement and move up a rung.
Now comes the “fun” part. After all the bs, while everyone is sitting around twiddling their thumbs, go to the newspapers, public talk radio, or other public forum available. The keyword is public. Once your complaint has become public it will take on a life of its own. Others will come out of the woodwork, telling their experiences. An army will form to stand behind you. An army WILL be heard. An army CAN force changes and bring about justice. Not just for you and your’s but for all who have preceded, and all who would follow.
Never give up or give in. End this heinous cycle!
God Bless You All, and may peace at last be yours’!
Love, Jackie xxxxxx
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Yes I tried this about a couple of years ago…sometimes fighting an army alone can be difficult, and when ‘those’ who should have come out of the woodwork, decided to crawl back in.. because they were afraid of losing their jobs..
I had notes, dates and times and went to SOVA, I did all I could, the more rungs i climbed others made me appear a trouble maker, as I got further and further up it resulted where NOONE would listen, I was therefore removed from my job and sent elsewhere…..there is a lot of the most horrendous abuse going on all the time…we just had a case regarding Jimmy SaVILE…..I have no doubt had those women have come forward when he was alive they would have been dismissed as attention seekers, you see he had the right contacts to shut people up so to speak…
I have noticed that now……when I’m at certain places it’s made certain that I’m about… 😉
Would I report again?..yep I sure would.
Debz that is sickening. I have twice in my career reported peers for abuse. 1st time I was threatened directly. 2nd time it was a manager higher than me and protected by a director… Then she accused me of bullyIng her I was investigated but I had nothing to hide I stuck by my allegation and insisted safeguarding were informed….. She was dIsmissed and her director friend went with her
ohh that’s so good to hear…my situation was awfull..having said that certain things were changed…but the little gang are still there, and ‘someone’ no longer allows me there as I may cause more trouble….I was like pffft whatever..but my eyes are always watching and my ears are always litsening…and my fingers are still making notes…
*certain* should read it’s made *know* I’m about…
Perhaps the army only works here in the US. I’m. so sorry. I thought it would work whereever decent cared about one another. Yet, you lift my spirits with your willingness to do it again. It is our obligation to humanity to speak for those who cannot speak for themselves. Those who crawled away, as well as those who prevailed will answer for their actions. If not here, then it shall come in the Highest Court of all. Love, Jackie xxxx
Thank you and I also like to think yes one day…. x
another good post jackie and a good point too 🙂
I agree 100% Jackie. And thank you. I am the safeguardIng lead for our organisation I train our staff in how to iRecognise, dentify , report and prevent abuse. I train them In values and in somways that makes It all worse because I failed to protect my own Mum.
I heard from a solicitor today they have 50 families all whos loved ones were victims of the liverpool care pathway .. We are applying to the european court of human rIghts for a declaration of the vIolation of the human rights of all those placed on the lIverpool care pathway. We are no where near the fInish lIne yet but at least the start post Is In sIght.
Godspeed, Carol. Waylander, I believe it is time for your warscream! Love, Jackie xxxx
oh Carol, that’s so good to hear!!! x
Good blog jackie and good on you carol xxx
My niece’s and my complaints went no-where – those nurses are still practicing, and yes I too hope they front the Highest Court of All. Great post jackie and carol keep up the good work xoxox