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debz December 30, 2011
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double teaming ??….just curious.

.you see leafofgold sent me an email ohh I have omitted some naughty words…here it is below..

~Do you enjoy insulting people with your sweet, chatty ways? I know of 3 women who left this site because of you and your toadies double teaming them in groups

Keep it up, this is one ”*iss in your garden” that is not going away. If you want to be the Poster girl for this site you better recognize your boundaries. ~

^^^ see what does double teaming with toadies mean????

debz
xxx

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    1. debz December 30, 2011

      thanks jojo honestly noone has any reason to be jealous of me lol….

      ……ok ok I’ll admit my Grandfather owned 6 houses in St Leonards Terrace in Knightsbridge!!!!…Queen Ann Steet , Portland Place and Hanover Square….But I’m still just me…….

      debz
      oxo

  6. Unknown Member December 30, 2011

    Debz….
    As in any community there are different storkes for different folks. I had to realize this and have found that very effective. If I see a group in the chat room that is not my “cup of tea” I just stay away and look again another time. No feelings of double teamed, or feeling left out that way. A Toad!!!! Hummmmm….. I think we all have our own ponds and swim within the comforts of our own friendships. You do, I do, lots of us here do. As for you being a “Poster Girl” for Chatters…… Well… you sure are pretty enough!!!! Just keep smiling Debz…. They will wonder what you are up too…. 🙂

  7. debz December 30, 2011

    Awee bless you blush, thing is Im not aware I have a following of toadies!!!!!…see I call people I like my friends….

    and I don’t believe I have ever chatted with you have I leafofgold????….if we have I did forget to mention I go to the libaray a lot and I would have mentioned you go to and brush up on your ignorance?

    and Poster Girl heck I guess for 53 its a compliment!!!! and thanks blush I just think of me as me…its whats inside that really does count…I dont give a hoot who has what and who looks like what!!!!

    oxo

    1. Unknown Member January 13, 2012

      Found from library research: Narcissists; “They exhibit little or no concern for anyone but themselves, though they sometimes pretend to care about others. True narcissists can’t emphathize. They have an inflated sense of self, can become highly unstable if criticized, and feel they are entitled to special treatment. They are preoccupied with grandiose feelings of success, power, beauty, and love.” CAT AND MOUSE; FBI BSU

  8. Unknown Member December 30, 2011

    Ah yes Debz…an interesting little epistle isn’t it….”green eye” amd ”monster” spring to mind here do they not. ”toadies”..a vulgar word I always find don’t you. This is obviously a person with far too much imagination and far too much time on their hands…sad really. A Poster Girl eh? well why not Debz…such a compliment in my humble opinion…they obviously appreciate how beautiful you are…inside and out. Yes a Poster Girl indeed…a true role model for some people…they could take a few tips from you Debz. they could learn how to make a difference in this world as you so obviously do..they could learn how to make a positive impact and be a true friend…I hope you are taking notes Miss Leaf…this is what you could attain too….

    Standing with you Debz
    XXXXXXXXX M

  9. debz December 30, 2011

    aweee morv ~ that is one of the sweetest thing anyone has written about me ~ and you know I’d stand by your side…

    Hey btw have you and tania finished that green knitten swimsuit yet!!!! lol….psst I have only mine is barbie pink!!!!! lol

    back atcha oxoxox

    🙂

  11. debz December 30, 2011

    ~ Ok thanks everyone for helping me out here!!!….

    I’m all done now and have learnt a lot….

    and like I always say smile 🙂 smile 🙂 smile :-)…uses less muscles and therefore less wrinkles!!!!!!!

    oxoxo

  12. Unknown Member December 30, 2011

    To our beautiful “poster girl” who is pretty as a picture and the target of the green eyed monster, keep smiling love, I think it is wonderful how friends band together when one of ours is hurt and give ((((((debz))))). There are wonderful people on here and nastyness comes as a surprise. I find at work we can have 20 beautiful people and one nasty one who I used to dwell on and spoil my day. Now i dwell on the 20 beautiful people and feel happy.

    So glad I have you as a friend debz and so glad you are smiling again xxxxxxxxx

  13. foreveryoung2 December 30, 2011

    For every green eyed monster on here Debz you have many many more friends who love and care for you. I find it very hard to believe that “seniors” can be so nasty. Life is too short now for such behaviour. I agree with Morvenna and Skip you are a beautiful poster girl, and I am so glad, like others, that you are my friend. Be comforted by the fact that we love you ((((((debz)))))) and I will always be there for you. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

  14. belfastlady December 30, 2011

    such a lot of nonsence debz dont heed it every one on here is very friendly and if she dosn,t feel welcome it is her fault as she must not be good at making friends if she joins in the chat i,m sure she would be welcome

  15. macathy December 30, 2011

    Well I don’t know what any of those words mean,I could look them up but I am not going to ,as Its not in my nature to use or want to use them about one of my fellow chatters.We all come on here for one thing to gain friends, and like anything in life that is worth it ,it takes time and effort.This email is something that is very nasty and I don’t think we should be going around sayings thing like this to our wonderful Debz or anyone really .I honestly don’t know why we can’t just say I have a problem can we talk ,for goodness sake we have been around a few years havent we learned anything yet. I am sorry Debz that you have had to go through this ,because of someone else’s inability to be adult.Thanks for for being the great person you are friendly,caring,helpful to anyone needing help on here and most o f all you a beautiful person take care and remember its their problem not yours ,you were just there way of relieving it ok xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    1. debz January 3, 2012

      awee lovely lady mac………even tho I got USA and Australia muddled!!!……….well see they are bigger countries than the UK and I got confused!!!

      happy your my friend mac we have fun in chat dont we!!!!

      OK debz I must remember Australia……..Australia!! the flag which has stars an stripes lol!!!!

      Love ya
      debz
      xxx

  16. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

    I usually don’t comment much on here but this is nothing more than jealously.
    Remember debz, anytime someone does something to attempt to bring another human down, they themselves are so low they can’t rise above their situation. What’s the first thing they do?…… Is try and lower someone else to their level so they will look taller. I would’t give it the time of day. Just my 2 cents 😛

  17. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

    Sorry Debz but while I agree with most of what has been said and can understand you being upset about it I don’t think it is something that should be aired. It was sent as a private message and if it really upset you, the way to handle it was to copy and paste and send on to Admin via scammers report or by the contact us a bottom of the page. Alternatively it should have been dealt with privately by a message of your own if you felt it needed replying to. Sometimes with messages such as this the person recieving them will p*** them off even more if they are ignored. Just don’t be goaded into going down to their level.

  18. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

    faye may i say that airing this is also keeping other people safe, don’t we need to know who these people are? to protect others in our groups? this person was a member of two of my groups and on my friends list. I want to know the nasty ones to protect my members and myself, why are people like that still here?

    2. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

      Skippy if everything worked right she possibly would not be here now. We do, as Admins, have to be careful when expelling people from the site as Im sure you will understand. If this lady makes a habit of comments such as she is supposed to have made she would be out fast…providing the Admins heard about it. But as a one off, the most we can do is ignore or talk to her and see if it is just a misunderstanding or a clash of personalitys. After all, there are a few here who have previously had “words” and have gone on to become good friends at a later stage. Sorry I cant be more help than that….:-)

      1. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

        I must say Faye the admins and the monitors do a great job on here and I am very grateful for that, thank you. I think if we start groups and are admins for that group we are responsible for keeping that group safe from scammers and the nasties and we need to know who they are.

    1. debz December 31, 2011

      awee kitty, you sure are pretty enough to be a poster girl, not about looks its the prettiness in your heart sweet pea…..
      I’m still not sure who the ‘toadies;’ are………come on now own up lol

      xoxox

  21. debz December 31, 2011

    Well firstly I did send a scanmmer report 24 hours ago, I still see that the ‘person’ is still on here, so really it was to make people aware, and as skippy said if people are in sensative groups I don’t think people like that would be very kindly to my friends on here who are dealing with issues of a personal nature.

    I am going through something personal to me where noone would ‘hear’ me, I am all for data protection acts etc, there may be some on here who would have been extremely upset at such an email and maybe darent say anything, yes I’m sure there have been far worse emails, however, condidering I have never spoken to this person, had no interaction have they not ‘cyber’ abused me by making a threat by telling me they will ‘siss in my garden and I have to keep my boundaries?’ some would take that to heart and feel intimidiated, me? nope.

    I also believe this person has been on here before under another name, if not then they do have the same charecteristics, and the other person eventually got banned.

    I did send this person a private message, and I got a reply, for what its worth it would be the type of message I’d have expected.

    In my own way I ‘m making my friends ‘aware’ and I have to say I’m very humbled by the responses and lovely comments I’ve received…..a little embarresed really…

    tbh if I had joined this site and saw such an email, I would personally thank the site that this sort of nastiness, threats and name calling will not be tolerated.. I also believe it shows the kindness and support that a site like SC gives to friends…

    As this was sent to me, I was thinking I wonder how it would have affected someone who was possibly very vulnerable, who looks to this site for friendship and help, as I have said before we can all be anything we want behind a pc and noone knows what each individual is going through, in fact it was just as well it was sent to me as me? Im as tough as old boots!!!

    Okay so for all newbies ~ I will tell you personally this is a great site with some fab people, I would NOT have made the statement on the joining up page if I didn’t think it was…..I say what I believe, if you read my profile it will tell you what I’m like…..

    ~ now on a lighter side do you think I can change my name to Poster Girl?………joking joking!!!!

    Bless you all and loves ya all lots….

    debz
    🙂
    oxoxoxo

  25. Unknown Member December 31, 2011

    Whoever sent that awful message to Debz needs to get a life! Debz has never been anything but kind to everyone and any “double teaming” was done in fun.

    Such a mean spirited person does not belong in SC

  26. marie41-2 December 31, 2011

    Yes I agree with CJ they need to get a life. I don’t know you Debz but it is not what I would want to happen to any member here on S.C. and yes I hope that person will not be sending anyone else messages like that and that they are removed from S.C. Thank you for posting this message Debz . Happy New Year and hope it will be a good one .

  27. georgia January 3, 2012

    Awww Debzzzz, I am so sorry I missed this. We have shared a lovely friendship, thanks in great part to your loving and forgiving nature, your graciousness and acceptance of imperfections in others. I will confess to the world right now that I was jealous of you when you first joined SC. I wrote and told you about it, that it was something I needed to admit because I knew it was wrong and felt badly about. I will never forget your sweet response to me, and we have been close friends ever since. As far as you being “Poster Child” for the site, I think it is clear that you already are! You could put up a generic avatar, and it would not change a thing. Your beauty shines through with every word, every thoughtful gesture.

    I don’t have any idea what a toadie is, but if you need one Debz, hope you know you can count on me, hahaha.

    I stand by you, defend you, and am proud to call you my dear friend. xx’s Debz

  28. debz January 3, 2012

    Oh georgia my friend when shes in chat who teaches me and leads me astray……..and lets me sit in the corner with her when were both lost in the conversations…..

    ~ psst you didn’t have to tell I’d have never told……I just think you were having an off day that day!!!…

    Anyway what can I say?….

    Ms Geo….your fab lady, fab singer and fab friend!!!!!!!!!!!

    Id stand by you to ~ in fact its great to see so many of us would all stand together, in whatever troubles or situations we’re in……

    Loves ya Geo!!!!!
    xxxx

  29. Unknown Member

    Feel sorry for people like that, don’t give them the thrill of knowing they upset you.
    Am working on that myself..lol Hateful folks usually hate themselves so you know they are already miserable..be the bigger person and pity them, tho I know it’s difficult at the time.

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