Have you ever been put on the spot……..
Have you ever been put on the spot, has some one ever took you unawares and asked you do to something, or lend them something that you were not really sure about but you answered yes because you were not prepared with an answer………I once read that in this situation just to reply with………”give me time to think about this and I will get back to you soon with my answer”……..this maybe not the answer they want, but it will save you a lot of resentment having agreed to do something you didn’t really want to………just because you were put on the spot………how many times have I lent people things and never seen it again…….even a video which had footage on of my family when they were younger, so now I think twice before agreeing to anything……..
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Hello Star,
the situation you explain is been called an unexspected mental riad in my language.
And yes I have agreed to do as been aked for. Today I’m not much clever but in a situation like this I keep telling myself; agree now and regret later. That works for me but if it would help you, perhaps. xxxM
Your absolutely right Michael……..regret later indeed………even down to child minding, grandparents are being asked to do this more and more often so their children can pursue their own leisure activities, I know grandparents who love their grandkids dearly and love having them over to stay occasionally, but I know, and they do too, that they are being taken advantage of, but don’t know how to refuse without causing bad feelings….but that’s a bit more difficult to get out of than being put on the spot I guess…..xxx
Darn you Star – you always make me think, and I hate that!
I suppose one has to consider the situation? I treat real friends (the few I have) like a miser treats his gold – thus they are welcome to anything I have that they might want to borrow, even though I expect it to be returned fully screwed up! As to others? stock replies I suppose: “I never lend money or make statements to the police” (disarms the would be borrower with a joke) then you pretend to have a fit or something equally distracting. As to other stuff “I don’t really feel comfortable lending that out as it was a present fom my wife” (most blokes will back off at that). This of course depending on how much of a fire eating dragon your wife is of course! xxx
Think !! well Dave I think you have been doing a lot of that to come up with such crafty cunning answers……lol…… you are armed and ready………alas !! I don’t think any of these would be suitable for me to use………xxx
Star…………………I try to not think about how many times I have been guilty of that situation. I don’t do it anymore. I finally learned how to say “NO”. It’s such a good feeling………….:)
Its a big hard word to say no……not just about lending stuff out, recently I had to be very firm with someone who was trying to muscle in on my forthcoming holiday without even asking me if I minded them joining us…… my set plans and schedule were already being changed around to suit them…… firm and straightforward I had to be, diplomacy wasn’t working, it had to be done, hence no more contact, not my choice but there you go……..xx.
I used to do it Star…but I now say ‘NO’//fed up of losing out in these situations.
Yes Tania, if your the one that is doing all the giving it does start to grate a little after a while….xx
When i was a young fella,a sweet young thing tricked me into letting her have my virginity.
I never did get it back 🙁
Hahahaha……..shame on that wicked person who stole your virginity……and from that day on you learnt how to say NO to sweet young things………yeah like heck you did….lol xx
Hahahaha, and she was so happy, you have done that with sweet young things ever since. LOL
Like several others who answered here, I did but I don’t. Also like others, I will give and offer a lot to those near and dear and don’t ask of them what is not offered.I am so grateful for the stall. I will think about it and then let you know. Or, I really do not want to talk about it.
It would appear that wisdom does come with age. what we used to do we now no longer don’t……..one positive in ageing anyway…..ty Rose…….xx2