Love Doesn’t Work Like We Think
an exract from one of the links provided by a SC member in one of groups, I found it informative:
“…………..Finally, here’s psychologist Barbara Fredrickson of UNC Chapel Hill. She’s spent quite a bit of time studying the nature of love, and she thinks she knows what it is: a “micro-moment of positivity resonance.” That does not sound particularly everlasting, nor does it sound like the answer Foreigner was looking for.
But what she’s really saying is that love is something we experience continually, on a daily basis, on a much smaller scale than we’ve been trained to think—that there are “smaller ways to experience love.” And that when we experience these “micro-moments,” our brainwave patterns sync up with the person we’re experiencing it with—even if it’s just the guy in line at the bank. Biochemically, it is this response within our bodies that defines love. The feeling of romantic love for another person, however, is due almost completely to the chemicals vasopressin and oxytocin.
To put it as simply as possible, sex stimulates the release of these chemicals in both humans and animals. The more receptors for these chemicals that are present in the brain centers controlling rewards and behavioral reinforcement, the more likely those animals are to exhibit monogamy.
That’s right, it appears that Robert Palmer had it right all along, and we might as well face it: we’re addicted to love.”
Think my Vasopressin and oxytocin are completely out of control at the moment……..their having a blast. lol x
You have made my day Star as I couldn’t help but laught out loud,the good news is that ………..
Gosh, I always love your humor Star! 😀
I have noticed ,not only on myself ..but also in others ,that when we are in love our looks improve dramatically, we become more radiant , we cant stop smiling ,we smell nicer , and not necessarily because we wash more ,which we probably do ! It’s a different kind of smell …it’s the smell of love oozing through our pores , our skin feels softer and much more receptive and sensitive to touch
We can feel the vasopressin and the oxytocin jumping out of our skins , literally ! Lol…
It feels so wonderful to be in love , I’m sure we all have experienced it in our lives .
I do believe there’s a chemical explanation to it , however I also believe that it take more than a“micro-moment of positivity resonance” to fall and stay in love .
I don’t think it’s as simple as to stand in line at the bank or at the bus stop and experience highly satisfying “micro moments of love ” .( in my opinion ….although ….thinking about it …it wouldn’t
hurt to give it a try ! So…No More Net Banking for Me ! ) lol
NMod. I think, what do I know LOl, that they are talking about a lot of positive energy and good feeling generated by any human contact that is positive and kind. This gives us all a chance to get the chemical going.
Your blog is so interesting Beatrice. We all have biological, hormonal things going on that we don’t fully understand. As humans, it’s great that we can experience the great sensations they bring to us. We also have the ability to think and to make choices of how to respond to all that’s going on in us, and outside of us too.
When my youngest child became of age, moved out, etc…..it was a bit of an emotional time for me. But (transparent moment here!), with a little time, I noticed that I felt sexier and enjoyed that part of my life more than before. I really think that when I mentally and emotionally let go of the “Mom” role, it released more of those other chemicals. That’s all I’d better say. 🙂
Kaybe. I understand and hear you. I read that young fathers who are actively involved in childcare actually have lower testosterone and my grandson who was a very devoted father and divorced seemed to have little interest in dating. I was beginning to wonder, but now he seems to he t thr typical guy who has his steady girl who is all good things.
Say no more Kaybee……….I think our imaginations will do the rest……..mines already into overdrive….lol x
Always
Beatrice, thanks for the blog post prompting all the insightful comments. I’ve take lots of notes.
WOW. So very informative. I would like to read more of this, but it sounds like a scientific basis for love and having joy and contentment. I believe all this is possible. The science and monogamy is a stretch. thank you Beatrice. 🙂
I no longer have to attend Addicted to Love meetings. Not sure if there is a concern that I will relapse. It is not that I no longer fall in love, I just changed it to things I won’t marry. So… new carpet I adore you! Sexy shoes…. you are awesome. Large Screen TV…you make me want to moan. What…a girl’s trip to a gambling casino… I think I am going to faint! This may be a temporary feeling ….or not.
just do what makes you happy, you are the most important person in you life, so live it the way you want it to be, thank you for the reply Linda ,xxx
I think my vasopressin and oxytocin have gone into “sleep mode” !!!!! 🙂
foreveryoung, you can choose to wake them up…lol, or leave them in the sleep mode if it makes you happy, xxx
Foreveryoung………..get the buggas out of bed..hehe xxx