Have You Been Down, Really Down
Have you ever been DOWN, really DOWN? Some people never have and lucky them. We all need to know and have compassion for those who are or have been. They also need to know that if they get enough kicks or a major one, they could be down and down for the count. We all need to know that and maybe we will be more willing to help others, because we may be the next one who needs help.
First, you can expect a LOT of NEGATIVITY from a lot of people and LITTLE HELP, so don’t BEAT yourself up and be ready to help yourself. Realize that you need to make yourself as comfortable as possible where you are and understand yourself. Gather all your resources and use them to the extent that you have them available. Refuse to give up, and NEVER say there is NO HOPE or no answer. It is hard to find what you do not believe is possible or exists.
If you are really down, you may be able to do little of the above very well, but do it to the extent possible. DISPENSE with blame. If you did it to yourself, then you can learn something, and if others did it, they are not likely to accept responsibility or suddenly want to change their ways. DON”T waste time and energy on the blame game. It is a LOSING game and you have LOST ENOUGH. Fate and a combination of people and actions are usually involved in the battles of life.
What you can change is what you do. Fate is fickle and so are people. That is life. They can get any of us down if they work against us too often or with too much force. Before we depart this world, we will all be down for the count. The best we can do is find a safe place to land. We can also help someone who is down and hope that someone will be there for us when we fall.
Have you ever been really, really down, and what can you share that may help others?
Well I guess Rose there have been times in all of our lives when we have been down or feeling a bit low, always said it’s only 10% of what life throws at you, and 90% of how you deal with it…….if your talking clinical depression, no I never have thank goodness…..this is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and medication is needed……last thing you should do is tell anyone to “snap out of it” oh how they wish they could……..xx
I have been suffering from depressive episodes all my life. Although I have achieved so much in life, I feel like I am not good enough
In answer to your post Rose yes I have been so down I thought there would never be a way back up again… but thanks to one special friend I clawed my way back… Some cope better then others, some hide theirs more then others…. Some reach out. However mental illness affects all walks of life. Mental illness can be managed, you just have to be patient to find a way forward….
We all suffer, and we must never be afraid to ask for help. Never be ashamed of your illness…. good post Rose 🙂 🙂
Ty starlette. I don’t use psychological terms or treatments, I just want us here to talk to each other, which is the first step and the last step in life. The professionals are in addition to friends and family. I respect your statement about 90% and 10% but my blog states the opposite. People can learn coping skills and sharing and talking is one of those skills.
ty pollie. Your last line is a good one.Never be ashamed of your illness or to ask for help.
I wish there were more people like you Pollie. I too am dealing with the darkness of depression and anxiety and have been most of my life and I finally pulled myself of of my dark hole and got help and my life is better than a year ago but I still have a long way to go. It’s been one of the most difficult years in my life and I was able to talk to some people in chat who were going through similar situations. It was so nice. I feel for those who are so depressed and in that dark hole that they can’t get out and don’t know where to turn. I have found many resources. Through therapy, meds, friends, and family I was lucky enough to get out of my hole. Not everyone has that kind of support and loneliness sets in It’s still there but getting further away more often. Depression is a very lonely place to be. It’s hard to talk about sometimes because of the negative stigma out there. If anyone needs to talk, I am here to listen. I’ve been there and still on my road to recovery. My next big step is to get a job. I will get a job and get back out there and continue to be an advocate for those with mental illness and those who don’t have it to educate people about it. I would be happy to share how I lived to see 2015.
Luce
Luce, thank you for your comment and I thank you for offering to be there for others. If this blog managed that, it was worth my time and effort.
Good blog, rose. I suspect most people have been down at some time in life.
I have been pretty much to the bottom of the barrel at one point in my life. It
finally dawned on me that I was the one who caused much of the descent, and I was the only one to start the ascent back to the top. Not always easy, but can be done.
Thank you for reminding us of that road some of us have traveled.
ty scotty. It was a hard blog to write in a short space and not diminish the subject or diminish anyone who has had this problem.
Without feelings, you could not write your grand poetry.
Yes Bloom guess we have all had those moments in our lives , I have had so many dire consequences throughout my life , somehow i seem to have the resiliance to fight back and go forward….I have always know that no matter how bad the cosequence it will pass, I have a wonderful Grandmother to thank for my fighting spirit, she instilled into me , no matter how hard the blow ,one must get back on their feet and try again….. everyone is not that hardy I realise , but just remember for all that happens in our lives , the sun will shine again , the stars and the moon will come out each night ,and it,s great to be alive………xxxxx
lani, you had a strong foundation and that makes a huge difference, There is a song I barely remember that goes something like this, “the sun is shinning but not for me: and maybe taking a person back to nature may restore some people, but I am glad that you are able to cope and I thank you for your comments.
I like your comment about knowing that things will pass and that is what many need to know. I remember getting a broken heart and remembering the words, “time heals all wounds” so I believed that I would feel better eventually, but I did not know that it would take years and years. Neither our bliss or trauma lasts and it is easy to forget that.
Thank you all for the comments and I have been reminded that we cannot control what happens in life, but we can try to be better prepared to cope with it.
I was emotionally abused to the point that I could see no reason to continue living. I had no one to talk to and the pain was unbearable….I just wanted it to stop. One night I decided I’d had enough and was ready to end it. I’m still here but it took years before I felt I deserved to live. I know the heartache that comes when you are verbally attacked and I have no qualms about defending anyone against such abuse. We have to reach out to others and offer help.
marion, I agree and understand what you say. I hope you have healed and believe that you deserve everything wonderful, you may not get it but you deserve a wonderful life.
Great post Rose.
Thank you luce. I tried hard not to offend anyone who has had this problem.
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Very interested to read all the comments regarding Depression – yes, it can grab anyone at anytime, but I must say that having access to a site such as this can go a long way to seeing through the problem – the most important thing for me is having the ability to express the problem and more so be willing to listen to anybody who needs to talk,