“Don’t Worry”

When someone says this, is it reassuring? Is worry now, more or less, likely to bother

you? Naturally your trust in the person who says this is the key as to whether you should

worry more, or relax.

Have you had any experiences relating to this?

“Don’t Worry” was last modified: August 8th, 2017 by LoneRogue
Published in People & Events

32 thoughts on ““Don’t Worry”

  1. waylander

    Statements such as “don’t worry” and “it’ll be OK” and “everything’s fine” should, in my humble opinion, be banned because in line with the first law of that great philosopher Lord Sod, as soon as anyone utters those words it’s all guaranteed to go to hell in a handcart.

    1. LoneRogue Post author

      Yep, these have the same effort to reassure which almost never does reassure. Another popular phrase now is “I have your back”. I think that came from the military and really meant something then, but now? [g]

        1. roseinbloom

          In the USA the expression “I have your back” is used in our inner cities and I adopted it after I learned how much malicious gossip is out there, but in the dangerous parts of town it really means something if meant sincerely. If I say it I am ready to defend verbally, and don’t expect to defend physically but I guess I would get some help in some way.

      1. len1932

        When we were attached by Japan people were very much worried by this small country. I wrote a column from what I remember and heard President say at the time Len

        Lens Lines — A Little Religion On A Positive Note by Len Granger

        God Blessed Our Country;

        When we look at the history of this country, God has blessed us many times. I remember as a kid hearing our President telling the nation we had been bombed by Japan and now were at war. It was on Sunday December 7th and he called Admiral Chester Nimitz in Washington DC to go Pearl Harbor and become the Commander of the Pacific Fleet.

        After he arrived, he saw everywhere the damage and the people in despair. When the Admiral had finished a boat tour of the sunk battleships, he spoke to the group with him.
        The Japanese have made three big mistakes and God has taken care of our country. and has blessed us. The Admiral later published a book telling in detail of the mistakes and blessings.

        Mistake ONE was when the Japanese attacked on Sunday when 90 percent of the crews were not on board the ships.but were on land. We lost 3,800 sailors but it could have been 38.000.

        Mistake TWO the attack was on the battleships but the dry docks nearby were not touched. So the ships in shallow water were raised and repaired. It saved towing them to America mainland and saved months in repair time.

        Mistake THREE all the fuel for the Pacific Fleet was in above ground storage tanks located five miles away, just over a hill. Our aircraft carriers were all at sea and were able to refuel and carry the battle to the Japanese.

        Admiral Nimitz was born and raised in Fredericksburg, Texas as a Christian and was able to see a positive blessing from God when others were depressed. Yes, President Roosevelt chose the right man for the right job. There is reason we have our national motto that says, ” In God We Trust.” Let us pray that we never forget how God in his mercy has blessed us in our time of need.

        Trust we will be in the church of our choice this Sunday as we worship and honor our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ..

        God Bless America

    2. len1932

      If you cannot sleep because you are concerned about something, I do this and go to sleep.

      Do not count sheep — Talk to the Shepard and He will carry our burden, Then I relax and go to sleep.

  2. goldengirl1224

    I know they mean well….but really its usually when you hear that phrase that you probably should worry! It does nothing to solve the particular problem/situation….or give you any real sense of what to do.

    Think Way has summed it up pretty well.

    1. roseinbloom

      goldengirl, I am much more skeptical of people “meaning well” when they don’t do well. Talk is cheap and actions speak louder. I do appreciate kind words but “don’t worry” and “I will pray for you” usually is not said kindly nor by kind people.

  3. Drummer

    A good question, but for me a simple answer – I often use that phrase seeking to convey assurance, for we all know that expression is meant well even if it consoles the speaker more than the recipient!

  4. roseinbloom

    Drummer, I respectfully disagree. “don’t worry” is an order or command; and orders and commands are never well received. Lending a sympathetic ear is much better, but it takes time and may require some help from the listener. After you listen, and there is nothing to be done, You may say try not to worry, when that is the only thing left, but usually giving a drink of water, tea, coffee, or even alcohol may make some difference. Saying I understand that you are worried and I would be too, would be much nicer to hear.
    The person is worrying to you for some understanding or help. Do something positive, even if it is nothing but a kind word, but saying DON”T WORRY is like telling a lame person to stop limping.

  5. vonMichael

    Its a bit different here in Germany. We sledom use this expression we say ** don’t you
    worry about it. ** Don’t worry means ** have no fear or more cncrete; you don’t have
    to have any anxiety about it…

  6. starlette

    Its a pretty useless expression really………I tend to say… don’t be going down that path unless something concrete has been confirmed, then we can try and find a solution or coping mechanism together………never worry worry till worry worries you……in other words don’t be jumping the gun……..a good tip I read once……write your worries down on a piece of paper, put the paper in a drawer for a week, then take out and reread, chances are the worries will have passed and been solved….illness a different matter, but ways are found of coping…..

  7. roseinbloom

    Worry is a good constructive force many times and needs to be examined. I have found that what worries me when dealt with gives me a great relief and happy feeling. Like worry over money, make a plan, make more money, spend less, then let it go. Health, make a plan, seek treatment, let the rest go. Health, money is two big worries. People and relationships are very complicated, so let a whole lot of it go. Worry, needs to be converted to decisions and actions or LET GO. Other people need to help people with that .

  8. waylander

    Perhaps a better thing to say to someone either with problems or in some form of trouble is “If you need help….with anything, in any way, i’m here”. Assuming, of course, that you will be. If you don’t mean it, probably best to keep your mouth firmly shut.

  9. rose1943

    The statement “I will pray for you” is thrown around quite a bit, at least it was in my life. I sort of resented it for a long time thinking “why do you think YOUR prayers are going to take care of my needs?”
    I say it now….but I mean it when I say it….but in the most humble way possible including that person in meditation…just sending good thoughts….that’s all.
    I would feel hurt to be considered unkind for saying it.

  10. goldengirl1224

    Rose43 – I have the same reaction to people saying ‘I will pray for you’!! – as if I am not able to ‘pray’ should I wish to do so…..it I think is so presumptious. ..unless of course I have indicated that I have a situation which I think is so troubling and I cannot cope and would appreciate support/prayer. I guess they mean well but…..!

  11. foreveryoung2

    I say “you are in my thoughts and prayers” sincerely and mean it. Not that praying for yourself is not acknowledged, but I say it in support of your prayers hoping that they may help in some way. Not that I think my prayers are always listened to, but it is said with sincere support for whatever one is going through. If that offends that is one’s choice. I do not apologize for saying it – it is my way of giving support to family and friends. It is my way of sending a “hug”.

  12. len1932

    When a person is hurting or has a problem I ask them if we can pray. The Bible says if two or more pray together the Lord Jesus will join us. I also believe, Matt 21:22 Whatsoever ye ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

  13. rose1943

    Calling a ‘therapist’ ‘the rapist’ is very hurtful to those who have needed this kind of help. “judge not lest ye be judged’ is also in the bible. Never heard that awful description of a therapist and I hope I never will again.

    1. len1932

      We have a lot of problems in our life and seems like as we get older the more we have so I wrote this about not retiring and having time to worry.

      NEVER NEVER RETIRE it will shorten your life. This month I will be 85 years young and by keeping busy I do not have time to think about doing nothing.

      I write a newspaper column as a writer since 1972. make fishing tackle for several retail stores for over 47 years, Now Striped Bass rigs, metal spreaders, and sturgeon rigs. garden a 1/2 acre area raising summer and winter squash, raise beef cattle, and chickens. Give away free, up to 2 ton of vegs, 1,000 lb beef, and several hundred dozen brown eggs. I sleep good every night with my small dog and take a morning and afternoon nap. If I sat all day in the rocking chair and on Senior Chat I would be bored to death. It also helps to never have smoked or drank in my life. Root Beer is my favorite drink and milk. I also pray to the Lord 5 times a day or more, Matt 21:22 says it all. β€œAnd all things, whatsoever ye ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive,” I was told I had prostate cancer over 6 years ago and it was stage 4 with only a short time to live. I paid for my funeral and picked out a casket, and prayed and prayed . Told the doctors the Lord says He has healed me and have had no treatments. Doctors said do not come back to our hospital so went back to AF Hospital and they over the years can find no prostate cancer as I was healed.

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